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Wet Wipes And Wine
#12 Changing The Generational Narrative Of How We Parent With Amanda Yoa
Have you ever found yourself moonlighting as an impromptu dance choreographer for your kid's latest social media escapade? You're not alone! Join me, Nikki Collinson-Phoenix, and the vibrant Amanda Yoa as we swap war stories from the parenting trenches where sleepless nights meet the hilarity of perimenopause. This episode is nothing short of a salute to the rollercoaster journey of raising mini-humans, with a side of karaoke conundrums and the ever-present choice between a wet wipe or a glass of wine.
Together with Amanda, we peel back the layers of generational parenting molds and the pursuit of something greater than perfection—authenticity. It's a candid exchange about the pressures that come with motherhood and the realization that our actions are the blueprint for our children's future. We tackle the portrayal of parenting in social media, sharing our commitment to providing a strong, nurturing foundation for our kids—a stark contrast to our own childhoods. Our kids deserve to write their own stories, and we're here to arm them with confidence, values, and the knowledge that they are loved.
The conversation takes a pragmatic turn as Amanda, a mompreneur at heart, spills some real talk about the juggling act of managing motherhood and entrepreneurship. From sidestepping the comparison trap on social media to the importance of having a backup meal when Chick-fil-A takes its Sunday break, this chat is loaded with nuggets of wisdom. So, grab your headphones, pour yourself a glass, or reach for that trusty pack of wet wipes, and join us on Wet Wipes and Wine for a dose of realness, laughter, and invaluable insights. See you there!
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Speaker 3:Hi and welcome to Wet Wipes and Wine, the podcast for parents who maybe want to live life a little bit differently from the norm. Maybe you want to travel more as a family or just explore new possibilities. The norm Maybe you want to travel more as a family or just explore new possibilities. Maybe you have family dreams you want to achieve, or maybe you just want to be surrounded by people who remind you that when life throws a load of parenting crap at you, that wet wipes or wine is usually the answer.
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Speaker 3:Today's episode of Wet, white and Wine. Wherever you are in the world, I hope you are having a fabulous day, whether it's morning, noon, night, or whether you are hanging out with me because you're a parent who's up in the middle of the night with an octopus child in your bed, or maybe a newborn, or maybe you are just like me, you're perimenopausal and you just can't bloody sleep, because that is the joy of my sleeping these days. But thank you for joining us on today's episode. I'm absolutely thrilled to have you here today and to join me, because we have a guest today. It is the fabulous Amanda Yoa, who is coming to us from Philadelphia. Hey, amanda, how are you today? Hello, I'm wonderful. How are you? I'm sleep deprived and I am here to shine. Excellent.
Speaker 3:We are always loving the reality of hashtag, keeping it real when it comes to this parenting business, huh. So let me tell you a little bit about our fabulous amanda who's joining us here. So she calls herself the hype woman. Now, is this hype as in, hype, or hype, hype, hype? She is a speaker, she's a host, I'm a community leader and she loves to bring next level inspiration with her amazing wit and standout content for all her goal friends. That's why me and Amanda are going to be good friends, because I am a girlfriend. So tacos are her love language and she considers herself a karaoke queen. What is your go-to karaoke song?
Speaker 1:Oh gosh, someone just asked me this recently and I was like it's really hard. I have like a whole set. I have like a whole set list, but if I were to just dwindle it down to one, I would have to say maybe Four Non-Blondes. What's Going On? What's Up? You know that what's Going On? Yeah, I love a good Lady Gaga song. Remember Us this Way. I what's going on? Yeah, I love a good Lady Gaga song. Uh, remember us this way. I believe the song's called I can do Lady Gaga. I'm very, like, low pit. I don't have a high frequency voice.
Speaker 3:I try to keep it within my range and just because I have, I have a history of karaoke. Um, do you, are you naturally an amazing? Singer or do you need alcohol to do it? Because I, I definitely need alcohol. Wine would be a big part of getting me up on stage.
Speaker 1:You know, when I first I would say in years past it would probably take me a few drinks to have to get the liquid courage to go up on stage and sing in front of everybody. Uh, but that's something that I've overcome, you know, with stepping into the speaking world and and wanting to be on a platform and wanting to be in front of people. Um, so now, no, I can just go up there and and kind of. You know, uh, we were just recently at a restaurant. My family and I and we, we did a. There was a karaoke going on and we did it was. It was so hectic, we didn't have time, and my kids were looking at me like mom, don't, don't do it. Don't do it Because they know like who hell I am. I would have had like the whole, I would have crowd, the whole audience, you know everyone in the restaurant would have been and they're like can we just eat?
Speaker 3:I'm like, all right bye oh, my goodness, I love that, although I haven't said it, my daughter now has got um, she's got quite into doing these little tiktok dances.
Speaker 3:And actually now, oh yeah, the one going like mom, mom, come and do this dance with me. And I'm having to like, really be consciously just, you know, letting all the guard down and going what the hell, this is fun, you know. And so I'm finding myself being taught tikt, tiktok dances by my 12 year old. Now my husband is like no freaking way, are you getting me on a TikTok dance? Whereas I feel like I have to do it for both of us now because I'm like so now we're like hashtag mom, daughter, dance or something on them. It's a thing, isn't it, if you dance with your kids on tiktok. Yeah, yeah, who knew?
Speaker 1:who knew that, being a mom, one of our things that we had to have in our repertoire was, uh, you know, being a choreographer. A choreographer, basically, you know.
Speaker 3:I mean, um, these kids come with very high expectations and you know I know sometimes she's doing these moves and I'm like, have you remembered how old I am? Have you remembered? Like you know, you want me to bust this out? And then I just think, oh, you know what's the worst that can happen? Maybe I'll put my, maybe I'll put my back out or something. Won't be the first time I've done that, but but I'm. I want to kind of it's really important to me as a mum to like not get held back by, you know, judgment. You know like leading by example a little bit, isn't it Is? If I'm going to start going, oh my goodness, I'm not going to do that, because you know I might make a tit of myself or someone might laugh at me or you know anything like that. I actually don't want to put that on her. I want her to think that's okay.
Speaker 1:Let's just have a laugh. Let's just take it for what it is. It's just a bit of a laugh, isn't it that? Because you know there's high expectations of who we're supposed to be from some of these people, these influencers on social media, and our kids are absorbing that and thinking, you know, this pedestal of perfection is who they need to be, when in reality, I think you know, just being yourself and being relatable, showing your flaws, showing your humility, is where people really it's what people really resonate with and that's where you find real connection. So I always try to, you know, encourage my kids to just be themselves and you know you don't have to have the perfect this, the perfect that. You know what is the word perfect anyway, it's a made up word, you know.
Speaker 3:Oh, look, people listening won't see. This is my mantra. This is one of my t-shirts. Can you see it? This is my mantra. This is one of my t-shirts. Can you see it? This is my thing. Oh, I love that. Perfectly imperfect. Yeah, this is yes as a as a recovering beautiful.
Speaker 1:I love that covering perfectionist.
Speaker 3:um, this has been kind of like my mantra for a long time in a lot of my work, when I used to do a lot of business, mentoring and stuff, I was always saying to people who were, you know, because the whole perfectionism thing is, a lot of us out there is saying, you know, the whole perfect, imperfect action is better than perfect inaction. So I kind of wear this a lot to kind of remind myself that you know, because I'm constantly on a little bit of self-dialogue going Nikki, it's good enough, it's good enough, it's good enough, and it's good enough, it's good enough, and just take it for the fun. Now, one of the areas that you are really passionate about is about breaking the generational mold to do next level things in your life. Can you tell me a bit more about that? You know from a parenting perspective and that what you mean by that for people that are listening?
Speaker 1:Yeah, especially, you know, when it comes to being a mom. You know a lot of things that were passed down to us. One of those things is, you know that needing to be the perfect mom, you know, and what is that really? It's basically something that was molded from generations past and you take it on to you, you know, and you think this is the end all be all of who you need to be. You know, and for me, it was kind of like shredding all those beliefs and building something that was authentic to who I was and allow me to really be, you know, the woman that I needed to be, instead of trying to live out these expectations that were, honestly, just passed down from. You know things that generations before couldn't do or couldn't be ridiculous, really, you know, and then we put this on a pedestal and think that we have to be that same person, you know. So I remember when I had my daughter.
Speaker 3:Oh, so much has changed over those generations that things have to evolve. But somewhere we do get stuck in the mold.
Speaker 1:Don't mean you were saying you remember yeah, I remember when I had my, my daughter. She was my first. I have two kids. Um, she'll be she'll. She'll be 11 in September. I can't believe it, but I remember when I looked at her and I, that she was like my first red flag I call it of needing to get my SHIT together. Yeah, I needed to get my shit together. I looked at her and I realized, you know what, amanda, this little human that you just created, first of all, go you. But secondly, now she's going to be watching everything that you do.
Speaker 1:And I think a lot of times, as women and as moms, we take with us everything that was said to us of who we need to be. And it doesn't really make sense because the person that said those things wasn't talking walking the walk. Rather, they were talking the talk of do this, be this, but they weren't living that as their real experience. You know what I mean. So I realized I need to step in, because I remembered what I took from my childhood. It wasn't what people said, it was who they were. Childhood. It wasn't what people said, it was who they were.
Speaker 1:And I thought to myself well, I need to show her, I need to lead by example and be who I need to be, so that she can do the same for herself, to know that it's okay to break molds, break glass ceilings, to be that person that she wants to be.
Speaker 1:She doesn't have to hold on to any expectations from me, from me or anyone else. You know, and and I think one of the biggest things too, is that, just like you have on your shirt, the need to be perfect as moms. We look at people on social media and it's all smoke and mirrors a lot of the time. What they put on there is not what they live every single day. But we try to uphold that and we try to think like this is who I need to be, and we get ourselves frustrated and burn out and drive ourselves crazy, you know. So, just being yourself, really establishing what works for you in terms of you know your core values as a mom and emulating that through your actions for your children I think that's what really hits home the most.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I certainly know from myself and my husband. We had quite dysfunctional childhoods, but quite different but equally dysfunctional, and we both kind of, when we got together and we learned a bit about each other's past and stuff, one of the things that we were both on the same page was was actually breaking the cycle, breaking that generational cycle of negative patterns of behavior that we had been on the receiving end of and going. We are very aware that this. We did not have healthy childhoods and as parents we don't want to repeat those cycles. We want to kind of wipe the slate clean. So we've been extremely conscious of our parenting, as well as massively having to acknowledge how much our kids are watching us and how much they're listening to everything and every. You know they'll come out with something and you're like shit, I said that you know and they are literally becoming mini versions of us and that's quite scary. You have to be like really mindful of that.
Speaker 3:But we want, we want our kids to go forth into their adult life or their own parenting journey one day and kind of go into it with a whole bucket load of positive experiences. I mean, don't get me wrong, we are not perfect parents. No one is perfect, but to be able to go forth. And if someone said to them you know what was, what was your childhood like? To be able to have someone go? You know it was. It was good to have someone go. You know it was good.
Speaker 3:You know I was, I was loved, I had, we had a great time Like we don't have buckets of cash, but just to be able to say I was loved, I was nurtured, I was respected, I was happy.
Speaker 3:You know I I I look to my parents as people who either inspire me or people who I can go to if I'm ever in need. And I know they've got my back. And you know, I know that I was loved and I know that you know they are proud of me and I know that, no matter what happens, they're going to have my back. I want my kids to just go forth with that kind of mindset and experience, which is very different to what our experience was. And when we look back, there has been a repetitive cycle of generational baggage coming through, and so we're very conscious of trying to break break this repetitive stuff and reset the clock to try and give the next ones that go after us a bit of a more positive fighting start here, because it's very easy to get caught up in your lived experience when you were a kid and just repeat that, isn't it?
Speaker 1:Yep, oh, yeah, you know. And when you say, wipe the slate clean, I think a lot of times we get down on ourselves, because sometimes we can hear, like there's times where I'll be like talking to my kids or they'll, you know, my emotions will get the best of me, and afterwards I'm like, oh my gosh, I sound like my mom, you know, like oh, oh my gosh. And that's like you know, they're like this, this. You're thinking to yourself, these are the things I'm trying to wipe clean. No offense, mom, if you're listening, like me and my mom have a great relationship now, yeah, but you know it's uh. And to that I will say, you know, don't be hard on yourself. Realize, you know, we're not perfect. We're going to have those moments where those learned behaviors are going to pop up. But it's learning what to do in those moments when you catch yourself, you know, and not having the.
Speaker 1:I remember for me as a child, it was, you know, uh, not having a discussion, not having a. You know, sorry, I shouldn't have treated you that way in the moment Um, and then having that dialogue back and forth. It was just, you know, sweep it under the rug and carry on like nothing happened. But you know you carry on and you carry all that baggage of that trauma and the things that you know have happened to you. So you know that is something I'm very conscious of, knowing that I'm not perfect. There are times where my mom will shoot straight out of my mouth, but I make sure that I correct, you know, those moments. I have that open dialogue with my children and we have conversations.
Speaker 1:You know vulnerability is a strength and I think that's something that wasn't really taught, you know, generations prior, I think a lot of our parents' and our grandparents' actions came from a place of lack, you know, due to societal and things that were going on in the world at that time, and learned behaviors from that being of a place of lack, you know, and vulnerability was just not one of those things that was taught, because they had to be strong for their family. They were in survival mode, you know. So being vulnerable was looked at as like a weakness, but now we know that's not the truth. You know, so being vulnerable was looked at as like a weakness, but now we know that's not the truth. You know, have being able to be vulnerable and real with your children, I think, forms such a bond. That is just a. It's a beautiful thing.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I know when my. So my grandmother, bless her, no longer with us, but was born in 1907. And she was very much of the generation she brought me born in 1907, and she was very much of the generation she brought me up quite a lot and it was very much um. Children are seen and not heard. Yes, you, know, very much.
Speaker 3:Wherever I was taken I was, I had no voice and literally was just a silent entity in the room, and only if I was given permission to speak, um, should I speak. And then I had to go back to being, you know, silent again and um, and that. I don't look at that now and think, oh, that was awful. I look back saying she, she was equally doing the best she was doing with the stuff she was given. You know, that was how, that was how she was brought up, that was all she knew. Things were different then.
Speaker 3:You know, now we're we're so much more aware of the effects of generational trauma, so much more aware of the effects of our parenting on generations to come and mental health and how we bring up our children.
Speaker 3:There is so much more awareness Whereas, you know, back in the early 1980s, when I was a little kid, we didn't have that, we weren't at that place then for someone to sort of pull my grandmother aside and say, why don't you maybe try something different or maybe look at things a different way? So, yeah, we've just taken a little break from today's show so that I can tell you a little bit about Global Trailblazing, our ultimate online youth club for young and intrepid global trailblazers aged 5 to 14. A place for them to learn, grow, connect, give back and have fun with fellow trailblazers from all around the world. They can complete fun learning quests and earn badges from any of our six core learning banners, which are life skills, kindness and compassion, purpose, travel and adventure, innovation and the world around us. They can make new global friends, hang out online, maybe hop on a video call or work together on quests through our bespoke social network. They can get access to amazing live workshops and support disadvantaged children around the world through our global trailblazing foundation.
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Speaker 3:For more information, just visit wwwglobaltrailblazingcom and so, um, I remember very much being a seen and not heard child and also she used to have this great one where she would, if I was, um, and then they don't like to say the word naughty but she would say I wasn't, I was inverted crates naughty, I would actually be a disobedient child, and that's real old, old language to be a disobedient child, and I always remember that. But ironically, as she got older, so she passed away. When she was 93, when she actually became 90, she started really mellowing and in the last three years of her life the whole because she was. This was now like the late 1990s, early 2000s, when we're moving on and it was okay to be show a little bit more of emotion and we were all being a bit more tough. Tough the last three years of her life she proper dropped her guard and I had the most wonderful relationship with her in the last three years and I'm really grateful. It was like better late than never.
Speaker 3:But when I was a kid I was terrified of her um, but but yeah, it's amazing. You know just how much has changed um in the generations and and the parenting space and um, it's lovely that we have so much more awareness and that, as parents, we feel that it's, like you say, the strength in vulnerability to be able to say you know, babe, I dropped the ball today, I messed up, mom didn't quite get it right, mom's just doing her best. Um, possibly didn't handle that well, I'm sorry, and all of that. That's a really powerful thing to be able to show your kids, isn't it?
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, I think it's the most powerful thing we can give our children. It's, you know, emotional intelligence, which I think was something that you know, generations past weren't good at, cause, like you were saying, you know, I went listening to the story of your grandmother. There was so much going on at that time. It was like, you know, making sure that we were passing on emotional intelligence to our children was probably not at the top of the list. It was are the children being fed? Is there food on the table? Are our children clothed? Do they have, you know, shoes? And so, like those were the necessities back then. And yeah, we're, we're kind of just now reframing and giving our children the things that weren't passed on to us, just due to the sign of the times, really.
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah. So I want to talk to you about the elf. So we have an elf that joins us in december. Her name is um rosa. Um, she's been part of the family for a while now. Um, part of me gets um. I'm really happy to see her. The kids are obviously really happy to see her, um, and part of me is like it's my goodness, it's Rosa time. Now I understand that you have more than one elf. What's going on there?
Speaker 1:Yeah, well, you know that was an interesting story of how that came about and what had happened. There was we had one, because at the time I had just my daughter and her. She named her Marie. And then my son came along and he thought to himself you know, and again you, the kids go to school, they hear the stories about they, all you know, have their own elf. So Jojo came home and was like you know, I don't have their own elf. So JoJo came home and was like I don't have my own elf. And I said, well, maybe you will. So we got him an elf the one year and then the year after we lost that elf in translation. So I went out and went to the land of the elves and I purchased, aka Target and purchased another elf. So you know, now we had two again, crisis averted. So one day my kids were looking through the cabinets, for whatever reason, I don't know. I think they were looking for craft, you know, craft things to make drawings or paintings. And lo and behold, we found the missing elf. And they were just ecstatic that this elf came early I think it was like the beginning of October and I thought isn't that wonderful, isn't that so nice that this elf came early. So now we have three elves because they found the missing one that I really was. You know what had happened was we misplaced it and didn't realize we stuck it up in the cabinet. So again, now we have three elves and it's fun.
Speaker 1:I love Christmas. I will say this I love Christmas. It is my favorite holiday. I, my house is decorated. Well, we start the decorating process midnight of halloween. Uh, wow, you so halloween, wow, yes, october 31st at midnight I am collecting the decorations. Halloween is out, christmas is in. Yes, they are getting swiped into the bin and the Christmas decorations are being put up. One of our trees is put up, so we start early. I love Christmas. But, that being said, the elf thing by the end of the Christmas season and our elves come the night of Thanksgiving, so I don't bring them out early. Who would do that to themselves? Unless my kids somehow find them once again. Yeah, but yeah they're, they're tucked away and they come out, and but you know, by the end of the Christmas season. There's only so many places that you can rotate these things, and now we have three that we have to figure out?
Speaker 3:Do go as a double? Do they go as a triple, like, do they go? Do they hang out together or are they like? I mean, how do you navigate three?
Speaker 1:yeah, but they hang out together. You know, sometimes they're separated, sometimes, um, you know they're by by the end of Christmas. They're being just chucked and thrown tossed into the tree with no regard. Yeah, like, I'm just like disgusted by them, like wherever they land, that's where they're going to go.
Speaker 3:That's where they're going to be. Yeah, I am hearing you Now listen on the subject of Target. I also want to know about the losing of one's child in Target and the story of that one. So you had a child that was hiding from you in time, oh yeah, but you were, oh you weren't aware of that yeah, and you know what that's karma?
Speaker 1:because I used to do that, for I used to do that to my grandmother. Back when I was a little girl. We would go to this store called Kmart. I don't know if anyone remembers Kmart, but that was like our younger generation's target and we would go out there every weekend. My grandma would buy me stuff and I was always with my grandparents and so we would go and I would hide in the clothes rack and my grandma we would laugh at her.
Speaker 1:I remember doing it one time with my little cousins being like watch what I do to grandma and we hide in between clothes rack and my grandma we would laugh at her. I remember doing it one time with my little cousins being like watch what I do to grandma and we hide in between the clothes and she's frantically looking for us and I just at the time we thought it was hysterical. So fast forward. Now I have children and they did the same thing to me and I was like you know what Lesson learned? I am so sorry. I remember calling my grandma up and being like remember when I used to hide from you at Kmart and you know, of course she's like how could I forget. I probably gave her a heart attack and I'm like well, I just want to apologize for that, because I've experienced that firsthand and it's not fun.
Speaker 3:Yeah and, and so that moment when you lost them were you just was it both of them I don't remember.
Speaker 1:Was it the both of them? No, I think it was just my daughter at the time. She's more. Uh, yeah, I think I think it was my daughter, but I remember just being like heart dropped completely, you know so we horrible experience on a campsite.
Speaker 3:we lost my son on a campsite. He um gone off on a little. He was just cycling around and we were did the whole like don't go anywhere, we can't see you, and all of that. And of course, all of a sudden we can't see him and it was getting dark and I can't find him. We, we are screaming his name and I literally am going to vomit Like this is the worst thing. There's other parents around, everyone is looking for him and we, you know, everyone is spread out, everyone's calling and I'm just like, oh my God, I can't believe all.
Speaker 3:How could you go from everyone's having like the best time to he's gone, yeah, and then, um, we had our car parked just to the outside, still still within the campsite, but just to the outside in a car parking area, and I was just like I'm just gonna go back to the car because, like, we've looked everywhere and I'm just going to go back to the car because we've looked everywhere and I'm just going to go back to the car. As I go back to the car, there's another family who are walking him back. But this whole thing, they had found him, he'd gone to the car and, bless his heart. He had said to them I've lost mum and dad. I don't know where they are Because he'd got himself disorientated in his like excitement of riding his bike around, but he'd found the car. So bless him for going to something that was familiar to him he was actually gone for it's probably about 15 minutes.
Speaker 3:That felt like forever, ever. And I, just when I actually, um, I just couldn't let go of him, like I was just in bits about the, the stuff that was going through my head of what happened to him and how we'd lost him and just everything is just them, I mean, my kids. He wasn't hiding, he had just genuinely, genuinely got lost. But, oh my, it's so hard. But then there's that little bit of you that's like, as they get a bit older, you can't constantly have your eyes on them. At what point do you start allowing yourself to divert the eyes a little bit without constantly being on their back? But then you know, most of the time it's great.
Speaker 1:But every so often, when it does go wrong, it's absolutely terrifying, isn't it? It really is. I am actually one of the things I'm grateful for. My daughter is she'll be 11. She has a phone, um, and and the reason why I gave her this phone I thought to myself, is it too early for her to have a phone? And I thought, you know what? No, if I give it to her with, you know, restrictions, I think it'll be a good thing, because I do want her to learn her independence, because that was something that wasn't given to me at an early age. My mom was extremely strict. I was like one of the last kids that was allowed to like, just really do anything, and you know so I didn't want her to have that. You know, I wanted her to learn her independence early, because I knew I struggled with that because that wasn't given to me. So you know, I'm grateful for technology, even though, you know, sometimes I battled with that. Is it too young? I don't know, but I mean our phones have a great thing called find my phone. So if she wants to walk around to her friend's house, I can follow her and see her where she's at and know that she's there and got there safely, or I can FaceTime her while she's walking or you know what have you and it's you know, her learning to have her independence, while me also having that peace of mind that nothing's happening to her. And then they have for all.
Speaker 1:You moms listening, if you're ever going to Disney World or a trip where there's a ton of people and you're afraid of losing their kids, your kids, you don't want to be one of them, parents to have your kid on a leash, I don't think. Is that 2024 appropriate anymore? I don't know. But what they have now? They have these air tags and you can get really cute on Amazon. They have these watch or bracelets where you can put the air tag in and it has like a cute character. Jojo has it. It has Monsters Inc and Nemo and he wears them and I match them with his outfits. And when we're on vacation, where I know there's a lot of people and amusement rides and there's a good chance that he might run off and I might lose him and amusement rides, and there's a good chance that he might run off and I might lose him. I know where he's at because he has an AirTag on him.
Speaker 3:So a little tip for all you parents going on vacation I actually only heard about them a few months ago and I think they're a genius idea because I used to be the parent. That was just like writing my telephone number up my kid's arm, yeah. So you know, an Air, an air tag that kind of thing is going to be is going to be phenomenal. I'm definitely going to look into those in the future.
Speaker 3:Um yeah from your mum journey and from the work that you do. Um. You gave me three little lessons, or valuable little nuggets that you wanted to share. Um. Can you share them with us now, amanda?
Speaker 1:Yeah. So you know, one of the things I pride myself in is I am a mompreneur. I, you know, I'm trying to build my business. My husband and I have something incredible that we're working on that. I haven't really spilled the beans on yet with my audience, but that's you know. So I have a lot of things on my plate and one of the things is, you know, I'm grateful to be at home to build all these things, you know. But it's it's hard navigating. That, you know.
Speaker 1:And a lot of women get discouraged when they have this idea of what they want to do something. You know, they want to do something more other than you know. Maybe being a stay-at-home mom. That's a job within itself. I'm a stay-at-home mom, you know. I started off my journey of being a stay-at-home mom and was like you know what I want to utilize this time at home to do something more, because I can feel it deep inside of me.
Speaker 1:So if you were a mom and that resonates with you here are three tips to get you started, especially in the social media scene, and social media is a great way to navigate and market your business, whatever it is that you're wanting to do. So, number one don't compare yourself to what you see on the gram or TikTok Because, like I mentioned before, a lot of it is just smoke and mirrors. A lot of what you see in terms of follower numbers and follower counts all of that can be manufactured, you know, um. So don't compare yourself to that person who is doing the same thing as you but has 500 and some thousand followers. You know, who knows if they're even real followers. You know, and if you're a mom looking at that mom on social media who you're looking at, her house is like pristine. You could probably walk around with a glove and not have a speck of dust. You know from looking at her videos that could just be. Maybe she straightened up just for that video, and every other time it's a complete mess. So don't compare yourself to what you see on social media, because it is honestly, a lot of the time all smoke and mirrors.
Speaker 1:Number two is don't be afraid to ask for help. It takes a village. That statement is absolutely true and that was something that I've really had to learn, because I am the type where it's really hard for me to ask for help. It's hard for me to be like I think I need a hand with this. I think I need and that could be anything, whether it's help in whatever it is that you're diving into help with someone to watch your kids so you can utilize some time to get some things done. You know someone to watch your kids, so you can utilize some time to get some things done. Don't be afraid to ask for help. You know it really does take a village, and managing your time that way will really enable you to get more done in terms of, you know, taking on a new venture and that's, you know. Even to say, look up your local mom groups. I found in our area there's a lot of mom groups who schedule what is it, what's the word I'm looking for Play dates. There, we go, play dates. So look up in your local area. There's a lot of mom groups that will schedule those play dates. That way you can get things done. That way you can even just have time for yourself, if that's what you're needing, you know. So don't be afraid to ask for help.
Speaker 1:And my third and most important tip for all you moms is Chick-fil-A is closed on Sundays. So please plan accordingly. Okay, plan accordingly, especially when we are running around. We got so much to do. We're thinking you know what are we going to have for dinner? Oh, I'll just order Chick-fil-A. And then you realize it's Sunday. Chick-fil-a is not open on Sunday. What shall we do? So there you have it.
Speaker 3:There's my three tips. What is plan B when Chick-fil-A is closed? Do you have like emergency pasta or emergency pie or something?
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, if Chick-fil-A is closed, then we go for plan B, which is I buy these dino nuggets that are half chicken and half vegetables. Yeah, so they're getting their nutrition a little bit without knowing they're getting it. Yeah, yeah, and they're actually pretty good. I've actually made them for myself and they're really delicious, delicious, so you know we just go for the dino nuggets in the freezer yeah, love it, I love it.
Speaker 3:Uh, listen, amanda. Thank you so much for coming and hanging out with me today and sharing some of your wisdom and some of your really funny stories as well. If our readers and listeners and people connected to here want to actually connect with you away from here, where is the best place for them to go and find you and be in your world?
Speaker 1:Yeah, so you could check me out on Instagram. I'm usually there all the time, amandayoaofficial, and then you could check out my podcast, which is Staying Inspired with Amanda. Yo, I'm on all platforms.
Speaker 3:Oh, that's fantastic. And if you could check out my podcast, which is Staying Inspired with Amanda Yoelm on all platforms, oh, that's fantastic. And if you are listening to this right now, you are going to find those links right now down on the show notes. So just click and go over and get yourself in Amanda's world. Thank you so much for joining me today, amanda. It's really, really fun chatting with you. I hope you've enjoyed it.
Speaker 1:Thank you for having me. It's been a pleasure.
Speaker 3:Oh, that's great. And to you guys, wherever you are in the world, I'm wishing you a wonderful rest of your day or your evening. Thank you for hanging out with us at Wet Wipes and Wine, and I look forward to catching up with you on the next episode. Take care now, bye.